Maybe we should start with a different question: why do I go to church? To get my weekly shot in the arm? To hear good preaching? To be with other believers? To participate in worship? Lots of different people have lots of different reasons.
Lately I’ve been reading Peace Making Women by Tara Klena Barthel and Judy Dabbler. In it, they make a comment with which I totally agree, but I’d never heard it put this way. They explain that many people have a mind-set that church is like a cruise ship.